Boosting the Self-esteem of a Special Needs Child

Special needs children have the same needs as every other child and that of self-esteem is no exception. It may seem a bit more challenging to concentrate on building your child’s self-esteem when he is preoccupied with building his skills and tackling challenges that other children breeze through, but it’s necessary that you help him do this.

When you look at your special needs child, you don’t see her as a label; you see her as a person, a child. And with parents who love them unconditionally and treat them as normal as possible, their self-esteem will not be damaged along the way. But, like any other child, we want to continually build a healthy esteem in them and we hope to give you some tips to do so successfully.

Focus on your child’s strengths!

Sure, there are weaknesses that need worked on, but everyone must see their strengths before they can begin work on their weaknesses. Point out their strengths – can they walk? Smile? Help you dry a dish? Pick up toys? Brush their teeth? Any of these things are huge to a little one. Don’t overlook them or take them for granted.

It’s true that work makes everyone feel good about themselves.

Sometimes jobs can be hard to follow through with special needs children, but that doesn’t mean that can’t experience the feeling of worth that comes with chores. Assign small jobs they can achieve without frustration. Can they bring you the mail? Water the dog? Maybe they can help you dust or shake out rugs. There is work to be done! Affirm that they are needed through little tasks.

Spend time with your child

Something as simple as time can send a serious message of unconditional love to your child. Sit together on the couch and stop worrying about the jobs that are yet unfinished. Running a home is made up of unfinished jobs! Laundry never gets completed – there will be dirty socks and more in the basket tonight! It’s ongoing. Learn to be organized, but don’t be immaculate or constantly busy. Your child needs down time with you snuggling, reading, or playing their favorite game. Love builds self esteem like nothing else can.