Who Will Baby-Sit Our Special Needs Child?

Every parent knows that “babysitter” is a ticket to freedom. Hours of hushed, sacred adult time without laughing at Big Bird, time to eat everything on your plate before leaving the table, sweet romantic conversations with the one you adore.

Although babysitters must be carefully selected for all of our children, special needs children often require a trained, patient person to oversee their needs in your absence. But how can you find this special someone who can slip in for a few hours and give you (and your spouse) the healthy break you so desperately need?

Family and very close friends often appear to be the most reasonable choice for babysitters; however, that’s not always the case. While close family can be great in regards to availability and know-how, you don’t want to take advantage of them. Use them sparingly and when truly needed.

A gem of a resource lies right under your nose – or your child’s nose anyway. The teacher who works with her on a regular basis may be more than happy to come to your home to earn a little extra cash. We know that teachers are rarely paid close to what they’re worth. Babysitting would provide a financial boost and the joy of nurturing a student in a non-stressed environment. Class aides may also be interested, and don’t overlook your child’s therapist.

Resource the people who care about you. Your place of worship is no doubt brimming over with people who love you and your child. Maybe a special bond has formed between your child and a Sunday School teacher or someone who sits on your pew. Put the word out that youre looking for a babysitter using church newsletters, bulletins, word of mouth, and bulletin boards.

Your resources may be more plentiful than you know. Talk with other parents in your support group; they may be aware of helpful resources. If you live near a college, take advantage of various departments that specialize in your child’s problem areas. Students may be eager for an opportunity to work with special cases.

The important thing to remember is that every parent needs breaks. If you look hard enough, you’ll find someone who can fill in for you from time to time and bring a new relationship into your child’s life, as well as helping you stay balanced.