8 Things You Should Do If You Think You’ve Met the Guy of Your Dreams
For many, it’s fairly easy to fall for someone’s physical and mental charm. However, figuring out what next steps you should take in regard to making a move on the person is physically, mentally, and emotionally difficult for a lot of people. This is especially true if the person is nervous or unsure whether or not the other individual likes them back.
When it comes to making a move on a guy you’ve been eyeing, this is particularly difficult for females as it’s typically expected that the male takes the lead. However, in an era where relationships and gender roles are changing, both females and feminine, homosexual males can certainly be the ones who take the first step in a prospective relationship.
Consider doing these eight things when you’ve met a guy you really like:
1. Hang out with him one-on-one
While in the beginning, there’s no harm in bringing your crush around your friends or hanging out with him around his friends, only seeing each other around others can make it hard to focus on one another and become closer as a duo. Plus, it’s hard to pinpoint whether or not you like each other when you’re constantly surrounded by others.
However, hanging out one-on-one, you can learn more about the guy you’re interested in. Likewise, you can better understand if he’s boyfriend material, and thus, if he might be a good guy to make a move on. Without hanging out with just him, you may never figure this out, and chances are, he might find someone else to crush on.
2. Don’t act like someone you’re not
One of the biggest turn-offs for guys and girls alike is when people try to act like somebody they’re not. If you’re a bubbly extrovert, don’t pretend to be quiet and shy just because your crush’s ex was. The point is, the only way to know if someone truly likes you for you is if you can be yourself around them. Plus, you won’t have to worry about faking your life or personality.
3. Put your guard down
It’s one thing to be skeptical and cautious. However, it’s never a good idea to put your guard up around a guy you like to the point where a relationship may not be able to happen. When you put your guard up, guys may interpret this as you not liking them. It’s okay to be shy or a little nervous about commitment, but it’s not wise to be distant and cold just because you’re scared.
4. Don’t pretend to like what he likes
Remember in the episode of Full House where DJ pretended to like cars just so her crush would like her back? Needless to say, once he found out she was lying about having the same interests as him, he cut the cord on any potential relationship they could have had.
A guy is more likely going to fall for you if you are honest but don’t have many of his same interests than if you lie about liking what he likes. Although a guy, for instance, may prefer a girl who likes sports as he does, that doesn’t necessarily mean the woman he’s meant to be with will enjoy sports too. Sometimes it’s best to fall for people who have different interests.
5. Refrain from playing hard to get, but don’t be easy either
In all truthfulness, playing hard to get draws good guys away. If you act a certain way towards a guy, they see it for what it is; they usually don’t “read in between the lines” to try to interpret what exactly it is you’re trying to do. Meanwhile, acting easy may entice the wrong guys while scaring away the men who believe things are going too fast for comfort. Pace yourself.
6. Send him texts that will make him miss you
In today’s times, just about everyone has a cellphone. Likewise, most of us engage in the act of texting. While written communication does not replace verbal communication, there’s something about sending a text that is more revealing and honest that speaking face-to-face, especially for those who tend to be on the shier and quieter side.
That said when it comes to attempting to reel in the man of your dreams, send texts to make him think about you. When you’re on his mind more often, he may begin to reflect on his potential feelings for you and what you two would be like as a couple. However, be sure to refrain from texting him too frequently or responding too quickly to not scare him away.
7. Let things happen as naturally as possible
Forcing a relationship or making it happen sooner than it needs to are not the most reliable things to do when you think you’ve met the guy of your dreams. Some of the best and most natural ways to keep someone attentive are to keep things interesting and have honest, open communication with one another, according to the American Psychological Association.
8. If he’s taken, respect that
One of the best ways to start unnecessary drama and heartbreak is to attempt to get in a relationship with a man who’s taken, just got out of a relationship, or is interested in somebody else. Even if he’s making a move on you first, your best bet is to back away and not interfere just yet. Timing is everything. If it’s meant to be, it will happen at the right time.
Conclusion
Making a move on a guy can be intimidating and even more so if you aren’t entirely sure if he feels the same about you. But the thing is, you don’t have to necessarily walk up to him and say, “Hey, I like you.” Instead, slowly getting to know them and form a bond are the best ways to see if you two could be potential lovers. They say being friends first makes for the best relationship.
That said, hanging out together, acting like yourself, putting your guard down, not playing hard to get nor acting easy, being honest about your interests, sending him meaningful text messages, letting things happen naturally, and respecting if he’s in a relationship are all things vital to do if you have a crush on a guy. Make your feelings known without being overbearing.