How to Find Mr. Right Online
Twenty and thirty-somethings today are essentially the guinea pigs for online dating. Most of our parents met their spouses in college, at work, or at a bar. Now more than ever, people are meeting their significant others online.
So, is it possible to meet the person you’ll spend the rest of your life with on a dating app? The answer is yes, absolutely. In fact, online dating provides a better chance that you’ll meet someone you click with.
Nowadays, a person doesn’t need to live in your neighborhood or know your roommate’s brother to make a connection with you. They just need a Smartphone!
So, how do you weed through the weirdos and find your soulmate online? Here are some tips.
Be Selective With The Apps You Use
Not all dating apps were created equal. Some want you to pay through the nose for simple features that don’t even deliver results.
Luckily, datinginsider.com has real reviews for over 200 dating sites, comparing the good, the bad, and the ugly. Make sure that if you are paying for a dating app, your money is well spent.
It’s better to be choosy. You’ll tire yourself out trying to keep up with 10 different dating sites. Pick a couple that you like best and focus your efforts there.
Choose Photos That Show Off Your Personality
Your profile should feature a range of photos that show different aspects of your personality and interests.
It’s fine to have a selfie or a bikini photo, but supplement the beauty shots with photos of you doing something you love, photos with family, and candid photos where your natural beauty shines through.
If you’re looking for something real, you want your photos to articulate something more than just physical beauty.
Put in The Work
It’s not all up to the men to keep dating app conversations going. Are you guilty of the Swipe-and-Ghost? In other words, do you match with a bunch of people, answer a slew of introductory messages, and then forget to check your dating app for three days?
You need to put in a little work to find the right guy. First, only match with guys that you actually want to message you. Second, respond to messages thoughtfully. And third, be sure to check back in and follow up. If a guy doesn’t hear from you for days, he might assume you’re not interested.
Be Careful Who You Ask For Dating Advice
We all have those friends who project their bad dating experiences onto others. You know the ones who say “don’t bother with that guy, men are trash” before you’ve even gone on the first date?
Let’s face it, there will always be jaded people who aren’t sold on online dating yet, or even dating at all. Seek out people you know will give you positive encouragement and thoughtful advice and tune out the hate.
Be Flexible
Something I often hear from couples who didn’t meet online is “I honestly don’t know if we would’ve matched on a dating app.” Sometimes we are so focused on “our type” or on superficial markers of a good partner such as height, career, or muscle mass, that we can miss out on great guys. Give people a chance before you write them off. Go with your gut if someone makes you feel unsafe or if your values don’t align, of course. But barring any huge red flags, give the guy with a weird hobby a chance. You never know, he could be your future husband.
