How To Stay True To Yourself In A Relationship
It’s so easy to lose yourself in a relationship without even realizing it. You fall in love as you have that intoxicated feeling swirling around your head. You want to melt into your partner because you enjoy being with them. It all sounds like a dream come true, but you can lose yourself in the process if you don’t watch out. It’s so important to remain true to yourself while uniting as a couple. We’ve got a few ways to ensure you don’t lose your own identity.
Don’t Forget Your Own Life
It’s crucial that you continue to invest in the things that are important to you. These are the relationships you had before your partner stepped into the spotlight, your hobbies, aspirations, and little things that make you “you.” If you disappear every time you get a new partner, your family and friends might not be standing there one day. You need to do things that you love without your partner. It’s wonderful to spend time together, but don’t forget the person you were before you entered the relationship. You had a community of loved ones around you. You had television shows that you loved to watch in bed eating chips. You had hobbies that you loved to do. Your best friend will always be yourself.
No One Is Going To Rescue You
If you think your partner is going to save you from all of your problems, you’re wrong. You cannot feel dependent on another person to rescue you. It’s a draining thing for someone to constantly try to help you through issues. Even if they love you, your partner will expect you to take up some of the slack. Your partner should treat you with the utmost respect and love, but they simply cannot meet all of your needs. You have to be in charge of your own health and your own happiness, too. A balanced relationship takes two to tango.
Be True To Yourself
Being yourself in a relationship is important if it’s going to last. If you find yourself scared to speak your opinion or make decisions for the relationship, you could be losing yourself. You cannot pretend to be the person you think your partner wants without losing yourself. If you find yourself giving up your core beliefs for them, you are no longer yourself. Be honest with them from the beginning. You should feel comfortable being your authentic self.
Be Present, But Mindful
At the beginning of a relationship, it’s natural to want to spend every waking minute with your partner. You may forget that your early choices can affect the future of your relationship. It’s tough because many of these relationships end quickly because they were built upon excitement and that “punch drunk” love feeling. Don’t let these feelings cloud your judgment. Start a healthy relationship by pacing yourself. Don’t suffocate each other and really get to know each other. It will take time to develop a great relationship. Put in the effort together and walk towards the future together. You may be falling hard in love, but it’s important to take control.
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Protect Your Personal Boundaries
Don’t get scared when someone says the word “boundary.” This does not mean you are keeping anyone from your heart. This means you’re protecting the things that you value most about yourself. When you have healthy boundaries, you have a safe relationship. These boundaries will help you stay honest with your partner about your needs. You may have boundaries about when you expect your new partner to call when you want to invite them into your home, and/or physical intimacy. Protect the things that you are passionate about, and share these things with your partner. If their boundaries and beliefs don’t align with yours, you can then make the decision if it is worth it to be together. Stay true to yourself by being open and honest with your core values. You can unite as one with a person in marriage but still take time to yourself. Your mental health will soar and your relationship will grow if you both have your own lives outside of your life together. Find joy in your identity and grow together as a couple.