Online dating profile mistakes you need to stop making right now
Most online daters looking for love spend a long time writing their personal profiles. From getting all your points across to checking spelling and grammar, it can be a lengthy process.
But before you go ahead and post it on eHarmony or another dating website – or perhaps you’ve already posted it and you’re wondering why you’re not getting more replies – take a look at the points below to see if you’re making any of these mistakes:
Are you an eternal pessimist?
Avoid negativity! If you say things like ‘I don´t like…’ or ‘One of my pet hates is…’ in your dating profile, this is not going to attract people to get to know you.
People are generally drawn to warm, positive people who exude confidence. So, instead, talk about what you like, enjoy and love doing and why. These kinds of positive statements will draw people in and might well be a conversation starter.
What do your profile photos say about you?
How many photos have you posted of yourself, and are they good quality? Pictures that are unclear, shot from the side or from far away make it seem like you are trying to hide something.
You should use a variety of pictures that show your face and your body so that people know whom it is they are speaking to. Nor should you use any old pictures of yourself – though you may prefer how your body looked five or ten years ago, potential suitors should like you for who you are now.
Why honesty is key
It is important that you are honest about yourself in your profile. Lying about your age, weight or interests will not help you to find a partner with whom you are compatible.
Dating sites such as eHarmony.com will help match you with compatible singles -–all the more reason to be honest, as this way you’ll find someone who fits you for who you truly are, not who you want to seem like.
Are you demanding?
After being around on the dating scene for a while, one usually has an idea of what they want and namely, don’t want, in a partner. But it is possible to go overboard on your preferences to the point where they can seem demanding.
If you specify that your partner should be ‘tall, dark, handsome, a child-lover, an animal-lover, a foodie, good with parents, happy to go shopping every weekend, financially stable…’ you can see why someone might stop reading.
Knowing what you want is a good thing, but this kind of description can seem daunting and is likely to turn even Mr Perfect away. Instead, pick just a few of the qualities you think are important in a partner and leave it there. Remember, this profile should be mostly about you.
